Be mindful: Harness your emotions rather than let them run wild. Like the Chariot’s horses, if left to roam your journey is left to roam in circles and run the risk of not progressing forward.

In a relationship? The Chariot highlights sex and relationships, so can indicate the need for sexual harmony with your partner. By genuinely taking time to communicate you can move forward in your relationship. Your penchant for adventure may see you taking a literal journey together too.

Single? This is a great time for meeting action-driven people possibly connected with traveling. As events speed up, you will enjoy increased energy and, perhaps, a passionate encounter.

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1. Pan of water placed under bed w/ sea salt added

2. Pour sea salt in each corner of the room your bed is in.

3. Hang garlic in your window

The sea salt helps to keep good energy inside the room. The garlic in the window will keep the negative energy out and the water under the bed absorbs the negative energy already in the room. You should be able to have heightened dream lucidity and recall upon the first night.

Peace & Happy dreaming!

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“Most people think of love as a feeling,” says David Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships – one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness,How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts – what Richo calls the five A’s -form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A’s, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

Even though the title begin with “How to” this is not a self-help book. David Richo discusses what love is: giving attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing – the five A’s as he calls it. The book is valuable as a piece of literature, as a philosophical and psychological work.

Why is it that despite our best efforts, many of us remain fundamentally unhappy and unfulfilled in our lives? In this provocative and inspiring book, David Richo distills thirty years of experience as a therapist to explain the underlying roots of unhappiness—and the surprising secret to finding freedom and fulfillment.

There are certain facts of life that we cannot change – the unavoidable “givens” of human existence:

1. Everything changes – nothing last forever.
Everything ends, every beginning is the start of an end. Relationships end, people die. Seasons turn, things change. Get used to it. Learn to let go gracefully, change and grow yourself.

2. Things do not always go according to plan
The best laid plans often go astray. No plan survives contact with reality. Adapt, improvise, flex, adjust your sails, innovate. Things turn out best for those who make the best of how things turn out. Plans are useless but planning is invaluable.

3. Life is not always fair
Some serious wrongs cry out to be righted but many more are best dealt with by moving on and not getting ensnared in a negative energy cycle.

4. Pain is part of life
There is a cost to everything and suffering may be part of that cost. Pain is not necessarily punishment and pleasure is not necessarily a reward. Pain can be a source of tremendous personal growth. But there is no need to seek out pain to speed your growth. Life will send you your proper measure!

5. People are not loving and loyal all the time
We are social, gregarious creatures. We depend on each other. But people are human and inevitably let us down. Our work as healthy adults is to feel this fear of betrayal and abandonment and deal with it, embrace it, learn from it, grow beyond it, NOT run from the fear. Running only strengthens fear.

FACE:

F–Fear: I am afraid I cannot survive if I am not loved, and this is how I am a source of suffering to myself.

A–Attachment: I am attached to a very specific version of how things should be, of what life owes me, and this is how I am a source of suffering to myself.

C–Control: I feel the need to control others’ reactions to me and interactions with me, and this is how I am a source of suffering to myself.

E–Entitlement: I believe I am entitled to love and loyalty from everyone, and this is how I am a source of suffering to myself.

Solution: Acknowledging and accepting, moving beyond what you can’t change to the inner work of what you can change: Yourself.

Richo shows us that by dropping our deep-seated resistance to these givens, we can find liberation and discover the true richness that life has to offer. Blending Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, including practical exercises, Richo shows us how to open up to our lives – including to what is frightening, painful, or disappointing – and discover our greatest gifts.

Every once in a while we experience a state of confusion so great that we don’t understand how to move through it and we become stuck. These are the moments when it is advisable to ask for help, and the sooner the better.Confusion is actually a form of resistance to what is. The longer we resist, the longer the confusion persists. The longer the resistance persists, the more energy we waste and the weaker our body and mind become. It is a downward spiral, that doesn’t need to be.

Our mind will tell us that so much is wrong, that it will take forever to make all the changes required to overcome the confusion, but this is not true. Actually only one thing needs to happen to break out of this state, we simply need to allow the confusion to be. The attitude of allowing instantly dissolves resistance, because resistance will only arise in the absence of allowing. “But how do I allow?” That is the question I receive the most from my clients.

I recognize that sometimes it is hard to allow. We are all conditioned to resist experience we don’t want. We are practically paralyzed by this habit. Our body is tense and tight, our emotions are frozen in despair, and our mind is locked in a loop of negative thought and belief. When you recognize these symptoms, it is time to ask for help.

The first form of help is to share your distress with another, some one who has experience with moving through these states, both personally and professionally. This process of talking about what is happening frees the mind from the loop of negative thinking. The guide’s role here is to point out how you are misperceiving, how you believe your negative thoughts, and that those thoughts are not necessarily true.

Secondly and most importantly the guide can help you to allow by directing your awareness inward, to the feelings and sensations of the experience right now. The guide will remind you to stop trying to control the experience. It is the need to control that causes the resistance to arise.

Allowing involves deep listening, being kinesthetically connected to experience through all our senses. This breaks the cycle of identifying with thoughts and unrealistic expectations of how things are supposed to be. Allowing promotes relaxation and relaxation facilitates the flow of energy in the mind/body. This in turn helps us to stay present to what is, to be in the moment. Developing confidence in our ability to allow everything to be is the most effective antidote to resistance, to being stuck in confusion or any other negative state.

Simplicity. It is a lovely ancient spiritual tradition that has seen a recent resurgence in popularity. As we try to make sense of our erratic economy and the accompanying financial anxiety, it is natural to leap to a less risky lifestyle extreme — stop spending, scale back, live lean.

If you are a regular reader of Zen Habits, you are probably intrigued by the idea of simplifying. In fact, you may have even given up many material things and actively live a very simple life. People who have adopted this level of simplicity, especially in the land of consumerism, are incredibly inspiring and fascinating.

But let’s be real here. In spite of embracing the concept of simplicity, most people really love their stuff, and they love acquiring more stuff. Like our attitudes about a healthy diet, our feelings about material things are complicated. We know what’s good for us, but we just don’t want to give up what we like. Our stuff makes us feel good.

Is it possible to live a simple life and still love stuff? How much letting go of stuff really counts toward simplifying anyway?

Living simply and detaching from material things will make you happier. There is real research and lots of anecdotal evidence to support the truth of this. But is it possible that some material things can add to our happiness, sense of contentment and joy in life? If so, how do you go about deciding what’s good stuff and what’s bad?

Perhaps the deciding factor is motivation. Do the things that you own or wish to buy support your ego, or do they enliven your soul? Some material things can afford you a sense of warmth, coziness, beauty, fond memories, or comfort. There are other things that offer only that fleeting rush of acquisition.

If you infuse mindfulness into your ideas and actions around material things, you can create a gentle balance between loving stuff and living simply.

Here are some thoughts that might be useful.

1. Look around your house now.
Walk from room to room. Do you see things that you never use and don’t really care about? Why not give them away or sell them? Clear physical and psychic space by removing the “dead wood” in your environment. Someone else might really need these things.

2. Examine why you are hanging on to something.

Is it truly useful or meaningful, or does it feed your ego in some way? Are you holding on to it just to impress others or to make yourself feel better or more important?

3. Look at how you spend your time.
Do you have things you own for hobbies that you never pursue? Do you have a kitchen full of gadgets but you rarely cook? If you truly think you will come back to a hobby or activity, box things up and put them out of sight until you do. Be realistic about how much time you have to use your extraneous stuff.

4. Are you in a career that is thing-focused?
Decorators, car dealers, retailers and others involved in creating, buying, selling and marketing merchandise, can have a hard time detaching from material things because they are always surrounded by the newest and best. There is beauty and art in many things, but consider this: you don’t have to own them all to appreciate them. Eckhart Tolle once suggested to Oprah Winfrey that she not buy everything she likes or wants — just savor it for the moment in the store.

5. Consider experiences rather than things.
On the whole, experiential purchases provide far more pleasure than material purchases. The memory of experiences improves with time, but material purchases are harder to think about abstractly. Experiences also encourage social relationships which provide long-lasting happiness. If you are itching to spend, spend on a great experience with someone you enjoy.

6. When you think about your things or want to purchase something new, consider these parameters:

It brings beauty into your life and stirs your soul.

It supports a passion or hobby.

It helps bring family and friends together in a creative, meaningful way.

It educates and enlightens.

It makes life profoundly simpler so that you can pursue more meaningful things.
It helps someone who is sick or incapacitated.

It is useful and necessary for day-to-day life.
It’s part of a meaningful tradition or a reminder of a special event.

7. You will know you are buying mindlessly if you:

Buy on a whim.
Buy to impress others.
Buy because you feel you deserve it.
Buy when you can’t afford it.
Buy just to update something that still works or looks fine.
Buy because someone else has it and you want it too.
Buy because the advertisement seduced you.
Buy because you are bored.
It’s purchased because buying soothes you.

It is possible to balance a simpler life with owning and acquiring material things. You can enjoy stuff without living the life of an aesthetic. The exact balance you create is a matter of personal preference. But realize there is a diminishing point of return with accumulation and materialism that undermines authentic joy and fulfillment in life.

Apply mindful purging to your current lifestyle and belongings, as well as thoughtful consideration to your future purchases. Carefully examine your motivations for keeping possessions or buying new things. Once you allow things to serve your soul, rather than you being a slave to your things, your life will evolve into an artful harmony between what you have and who you are.

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Topic: Where are we headed?

Guest Speaker: Medium Marie will offer free Psychic Intuitive Insights.

Win a FREE 15 minute coaching session with Dee of Love Solutions! When you join us on Tuesdays phone seminar (exclusive for Satori Nation members).

Join us Tues. – Relationship Coach Dee will discuss behaviors, signs and tips on how to tell if you’re investing your energy in a potential partnership or potential flop. We hope you leave our seminar with tools to see if your current relationship, or dating experience is headed towards a more serious commitment.

• If you are dating – will it lead to a relationship?
• If you are in a relationship – will it lead to something more serious?
• If you are living together – is it leading towards marriage?
• If you are dating trying to reconnect with an ex-partner – will you reconnect?

Unfortunately, even if your partners intentions are pure, you may both find that the relationship you are building or trying to build is more than he/she can handle. This is one of the main reasons why partners back away when discussions of a more serious comittment are discussed.

• Dee will give you tips and conversational pieces to help move your relationship past any commitment hurdles.
• Or, help you determine if you should cut the cord.

Move forward together or begin investing your time in yourself or a new relationship!

Let the romance begin all over again. At the end of the call Dee will answer your relationship questions. Those who ask questions – Medium Marie will offer her Psychic Intuitive Insights to help you see your relationship from an outside perspective.

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